I’ve never dated, yet I have a pretty good idea of what romantic love feels like. My father picks me up on Tuesdays from my mom’s house and we either go birding, get dinner, go back to his house and play games, watch TV, or play music (or a mixture of these). During these activities, we talk, cuddle, laugh, and make crazy memories. He’s quite the gentleman and holds the door for me at restaurants, kisses me on the head while we’re watching a movie and cuddling, and holds my hand when we’re driving (allowing that he can afford to take one hand off the wheel). He texts me randomly during the day, telling me that he loves me. We joke that when (if) I ever am in a relationship like that with a guy, I’ll have some pretty high standards because of the amazing example my daddy’s been. And, there’s always some truth behind every joke. I know what it feels like to be loved and cherished, and I won’t settle for anything less than chivalrous.
Chivalry is almost outdated these days, as the feminist agenda has permeated most of our culture. If women are equal to men, why should men treat women as delicate, special, and loved ones to be cherished? Something I’m very thankful for is that at our church, young men are encouraged to hold the doors for ladies by the very example of their elders. I’ve had all ages of “men” hold the door open for me, even down to the youngest son of our pastor. That is something very dear falling from grace in our everyday lives.
But even more than affectionate love on the spur of the moment, I have my Savior’s example of true, sacrificial love for me. Instead of letting me perish, he gave his own life away.
“Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.”
“In the same way, husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church.”
My Heavenly Father loves me so much that even when I was a sinner, he died. For me! Can you believe that? And, even when I fail to realize how much I owe, he forgives that and gives me more understanding.
I know that no mere mortal man can ever measure up to these high standards, but they’re a good target to aim for, right? 🙂 I thank God for my father, and for the example he has been and constantly is in my life.